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Read More? Screen Less?

All of us writers, we say it all the time: the two best ways to become a good writer are (of course) to write, but also to read anything and everything you can get your hands on.  I’m going to leave alone the writing part for now and I’m going to focusing on the ‘reading more’ bit.

It’s so hard isn’t it?  It used to be easy.  When I was twenty, I’d go to the library and get ten books, and read most of them in a week, often switching between two of them, at night before bed. I would read at work.  I would read on the toilet.  I would read at dinner. I’d read on the bus, in the car (I didn’t drive then),  in the tub. 

Then screens happened. Little computers in the palm of your hand that have all the information in the world! And all the books! But let’s admit it: we’re reading Twitter and TikTok about books rather than actually reading them. It’s so hard. Sometimes I find myself in bed at night, reading a book–a good book! An engaging book!–and my hand will creep over the coverlet to find my phone. The next thing I know, that tiny computer is back in my face and the books been thrown to the side like a piece of trash. 

Well, I’m trying to change that in 2023, so here are my tips for reading (a little) more. 

 

Photo by Florencia Viadana on Unsplash

First: Don’t bring your phone in the bathroom with you.  Seriously.  Don’t say you don’t do it. We all know that’s a damn lie. Leave it in your purse or on the bed or in the kitchen.  Now, put a book on the back of the toilet or a magazine with short stories or poems.  There are lots of great short fic magazines that could use your support such as: Fantasy, Nightmare, F&SF, and Apex to name a few.  Remember when we used to read on the toilet?  Yes? Well, go back to doing that.

Second: Find that spot in the day where you tend to pick up your phone and stare at it. Maybe it’s on your lunch break.  Maybe it’s when you get home from work, drop your keys and lay on the couch.  Maybe it’s during your morning coffee.  Now, put a book there. Put a book in the bag you take to lunch. Set one next to your coffee pot. Lay one on the coffee table next to that favorite chair. Whatever place you end up staring at your phone for thirty minutes at a stretch, put a book there. Now, pick up the book instead.

Third: Most importantly, the book before bed!  I’m pretty sure all of us readers try to read before bed. It’s relaxing, it’s not a screen, it’s supposed to be good sleep hygiene.  But as I said, that hand takes on a life of its own and goes sneaking over to the phone. The fix for that? When you walk into your room to get ready for bed, plug in your phone far away from you.  Put it on the dresser. Plug it in on the bathroom counter.  Put it wherever it needs to be that is far enough you won’t be tempted to rise out of bed to go ‘just check it.’ If anywhere in your bedroom is not far enough, order yourself an old school analog alarm clock from Amazon, and leave your phone charging in the kitchen when you go to bed.

This has honestly been the biggest help for me. I have been reading more since I started doing this, because I hate getting out of bed once I’m cozy.  It has also had the neat side effect of improving my sleep because I’m not turning off the lights and then immediately picking up my phone to ‘check Twitter one last time’ for an hour before I go to sleep.

Fourth: A final tip for all of the above: if you don’t like it, don’t finish it. This one is hard, I know. A lot of us writers feel like we really have to give our fellow authors a fair shot, and we end up slogging through a book we aren’t enjoying because we feel we ought to.  Well, you ought not to.  Give the book a fair shot–read a quarter, thirty percent, one chapter–whatever amount you feel should have engaged you.  If it hasn’t done that, put it down. Go find another book. If you don’t like that one, rinse and repeat.  Keep going until you’re enjoying yourself.  You’ll read a lot faster if you love it, I promise.

(And of the guilt ridden of us, remember, just because you’re not loving the book right now doesn’t mean you won’t love it later.  You might just not be in the right ‘mood’ for that story or genre right now. And that’s okay. So if you feel really guilty about not finishing a book, tell yourself you’ll come back to it and put in back in your TBR pile.)

 

Welp, that’s it for this list. If you only do one of the things on this list, do number 3. It will benefit both the time you spend reading and your sleep habits.  And if you end up staying up all night to read a really good book, I guarantee you’ll feel a lot less guilty about it than if you’d stayed up until one a.m scrolling the same Facebook posts over and over and over.

Until next time.

 

-JM

Setting Writing (or Other) Goals for the New Year

My first rule of setting goals for the New Year is obviously going to be that this is not a big deal. This is getting published in late January, so the  main thing you need to know is to not put a lot a pressure on yourself. This should not be something you agonize over, because that will make you not want to do it. This leads into my first actual tip:

  • Make your goals doable.  If you read my last blog post, you’ll know I made about 100 short story submissions in 2022.  For 2023, I set my goal to half that. Why not set it higher? Well, first, my hope is that some of those will get published and, therefore, cannot be re-subbed.  Secondly, my goal for 2022 was to make 25 submissions, so 50 is actually doubling that.  I know it’s achievable, and I’m still improving on the previous plan, but I am not setting myself up to fail.
  • Write your goals down. Seriously.  Scribble it on a sticky note.  Make a detailed graph with plot points. Do a spreadsheet. You do you, but write them down. Studies have shown (but I’m not looking them up right now because I’m lazy) that people who write down their goals are considerably more likely to achieve them.
  • Make your goals for you, and NO ONE ELSE.  That writer over there might write 1,000 to 2,000 words a day, but maybe they have a cushy job or a rich spouse. Maybe they don’t have kids. Maybe they do have kids and they neglect them.  You know what you have going on in your life–be it school/work/family obligations/a need to rewatch the entirety of Parks & Rec once a month–better than anyone else. You also know whether you’re a major procrastinator or not, so factor all those things in when setting your goals.

Much like making goals, the tips for making goals are pretty simple. Make them achievable, write them down, and make them for you and no one else.   That’s all I got.  I don’t want to agonize over this post anymore than you should agonize over those goals.

Oops…NaNoWriMo Was It?

Hmm.. *checks notes* It looks like my last post was way back in November, saying that I was going to write 30,000 words of my novel for NaNoWriMo, and finish it by the end of the year.   I also said it was going to be, and I quote “a busy damn month.”

I wasn’t wrong about the later.  Kids got sick. School (for me, not them) was more overwhelming that I expected.  I discovered that I really like reading and analyzing fiction, but do not enjoy writing essays about it.  Then, there was Thanksgiving, which we hosted, and Christmas shopping.  And all the things that come with the holidays when you have kids, like baking cookies and making sure the house is decorated.

That 30,000 word goal was a stretch to say the least.

I didn’t do too badly though.  I could have hit it if I had kept going.  I got seventeen thousand in less than two weeks and then…honestly I don’t know what happened.  The last half of November and all of December were a blur of brightly colored wrapping paper, holiday spices, and reruns of Call the Midwife.  

Now, school is back in (for me and the kids), and things are returning to normalcy and I am hoping to be more productive in the coming year.  I have set some writing-related goals for the New Year, and they are as follows:

  • Write seventy thousand creative words. This is about what I wrote in 2022, so if I actually finish said novel and write some stories, should be doable.
  • Finish that novel. I don’t expect it to be good.  I just want to finish it to prove that I can, as well as for practice.
  • Make fifty or more short story submissions. I made almost exactly one hundred this past year, and none of them got accepted, so this one is definitely doable, considering I have at least two stories from last year that haven’t even been typed/edited yet, in addition to all the ones I will write, and all the ones that have not yet found homes.
  • Post here more.  If I’m hoping to actually get published and have my bio for that link here, people have to have something to read, right?

Just going to throw this out there that I’ve been a little depressed, which is has been a huge contributor to my lack of writing (and to me watching over half the seasons of Call the Midwife in less than three weeks).  Not a lot depressed, just the kind where one feels like being more of a couch potato and less of a productive potato.  I think trying to do so much just overwhelmed me into submission.

I’m going to try to not spread myself so thin this year.  You shouldn’t either. You deserve to be a pat of butter, not a smear.

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